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August 18, 2009 |
| cheesecake65 asks: |
| Well its like this by bf wants to have anal sex and its embrassing but i really don't kno wat anal sex is. I have heard a few different explainations.
Can u please help! |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
| Anal sex would involve him putting his penis in your anus, or the more commonly used word, butthole. :) |
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August 13, 2009 |
| A Bit Worried... asks: |
| Firstly, I'm a seventeen year old female. I just recently lost my virginity to my on and off boyfriend of eight months. Though I cant say that we are in love, and we are not together at the moment, we are still best friends. Okay, now to the point. On the eleventh, it's now the thirteenth, we ended up having unprotected sex for the first time. Though i'm aware that guys can pre-cum multiple times during sex, I'm not sure if he did inside me, because I know at one point I was going down on him and he did in my mouth. I know he didnt fully cum inside me though. My period is supposed to be due the twentieth, but this morning I started bleeding. It feels like the usual period, you know: lower back aches, cramps, tender breasts, etc. I'm also a bit nauseous, but sometimes that happens when my cramps are bad. The only thing is, the blood was darker brown in spots and lighter pink in others. I dont know how soon pregnancy symptoms are able to occur, but is it possible that i'm pregnant? How can I tell? Thanks for your time. |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
It's entirely possible that you are pregnant, especially considering the sex you had was unprotected. Even when you use protection (regardless of how much) you are still risking pregnancy. Using no protection at all just bumps those risks up more.
As for the pre-cum, it's likely that some got inside of you, and pre-cum can get you pregnant. Not trying to scare you, just being very honest. You wouldn't have been able to tell (unless he is a guy who has a LOT of precum) and he wouldn't have been able to tell or stop it from happening.
As far as your actual chances of being pregnant, it's hard to say. None of the symptoms you are saying could especially be pregnancy symptoms considering you are so close to getting your period. There isn't really any way for me to give you an exact percentage as to how likely it is that you're pregnant or not.
The only thing to do now is to take a pregnancy test. Hopefully (and most likely) you aren't pregnant and everything is okay. From now on, keep some condoms with you! |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
August 13, 2009 |
| kayco asks: |
| well me and this guy have been seeing eachuther for 11 mouts and we wont to have sex and we are wondering wil it be plesherable?and if it'll hurt or something cuz we both haven had sex befor? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| Typically sex only hurts for the female when having sex for the first time, and usually only if she still has her hymen (a piece of skin covering the entrance to the vagina). Just because you haven't had sex does not mean that you still have your hymen- it could have broken in other ways. Trust that the first time you have sex it will only last a matter of seconds, so don't be too worried about making it the most pleasurable sex ever. Work on making things fit (him penetrating you correctly) and figuring out the mechanics of sex itself. Then you can wait a bit and go again. Make sure to communicate with your partner- it takes time to really learn what gets you and your partner off. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
August 11, 2009 |
| Solo557 asks: |
| im 15, shy, and never had a girlfriend b4 and i want to b in a reltionship but i can never talk to girls that im attracted to. how can i get over the shyness real fast |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| Typically the easiest way to get over shyness with girls is to just force yourself to talk to them. Do a quick 1-2-3 countdown in your head and then make a move. Pretend you have confidence because thats what most people do. Pretending you have confidence isn't much different than real confidence. You're still making a move. If you want to find someone though, befriend people you like first. Then see if you can turn that friendship into something more. |
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| Topic: |
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August 10, 2009 |
| chandler101 asks: |
| i masterbait alot but after i feel bad is it normally to masterbait and get orgasms |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| I'm not sure I understand the question. It's normal to feel a bit strange and uncomfortable after having an orgasm if you're not used to masturbating. But remember that there is nothing wrong with it and it is totally healthy. As far as orgasms, yes it is normal to masturbate until you orgasm. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
August 10, 2009 |
| sammyswimmer07 asks: |
| I have a question can a General Practioner show me how to do a testicular self exam when I go in for my next physical? What all will happen? what will she have me do or what will she do? Can they also do rectal exams too? if need be? Can they also measure how big you are too? |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
| A GP can give you instructions how to do a self-exam, but you can find that info online for yourself as well. They wouldn't do rectal exams usually, nor would they measure your size. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
August 07, 2009 |
| anonymous101 asks: |
| Alright this is probably a stupid question but what exactly makes sex pleasurable and can it be pleasurable if you don't orgasm. (I'm a girl) |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
This is a great question! In my opinion, the actual orgasm is not what makes sex pleasurable. For most people the orgasm lasts only a matter of a few seconds, whereas the sex itself can last for hours. For men- the most sensitive part of the penis is the head. For girls, it is the clitoris (the clit)... When having sex, both the clit and the head of the penis are stimulated creating pleasure because of the amount of nerve endings in both of them. Of course you also get pleasure from having the inside of your vagina stimulated and the male gets pleasure from having the entirety of his penis stimulated too. Actually, both sexes can really get pleasure out of being touched just about anywhere. Breats, nipples, back, legs, feet, lips... it can sometimes just depend on the person.
Sex is also a very, very mental activity. If you are mentally aroused (and in the moment) the sex might feel even better.
Hopefully that answers your question! |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
August 06, 2009 |
| shy..? asks: |
| Ok, so i dont have a HUGE group of friends or anything, but im not a complete loner either. MY question is how/where is a good way/place to meet guys, and ,aybe even some new freinds? can you think of anything outside of school?
thx a bunch |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| You can meet people anywhere and everywhere you go. See a cute guy while you're out getting coffee? Introduce yourself. See someone at the library reading a book you like? Ask them about it. If you're too shy to do things like that, joining groups or clubs is an excellent way to meet people that you have something in common with. Look in your city calender to find what sorts of city sports there are. Maybe a book club, some sort of activity. These are also arranged by your school, if you don't mind setting it up there. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
July 30, 2009 |
| ???? asks: |
| I was making out with this girl the other day and afterwords one of my friends told me she was a hoe.i was just wondering if you can get aids by just making out with a girl? |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
| No, you can't. And labeling someone a "hoe" doesn't tell you much of anything at all.... |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
July 23, 2009 |
| confused . asks: |
| ohk so im 14 as of tomorrow ,. and i always had this idea of wht sex was going to be like . it was going to be a guy was completly in love with , and trusted completely , well when i was in 7th grade i found tht guy ,. he was like my bestfriend. but i just wasnt ready to have sex yet . i mean i was wht 12. but i did promise him tht when i was ready he would be the first person i called. well here i am the summer between 8th and 9th grade . and i was ready , so uhh i lost my virginity to this guy tht i really liked but wasnt exactly in love with like i was with the other boy. i wasnt even going out with the boy tht i did it with for the first time so tht just tookaway the making it special .
Another thing , i didnt really enjoy it. which is really weird because my friends always said how good it felt. but i didnt feel tht. When he ate me out i did cum but i didnt understand why girls at my school said its the best feeling in the world. same with fingering. no pleaser .
i dont get it is there something wrong with me ?
oh and like it feels good when i like just rub my vagina. like really good .
but recently after i masterbate my stomach starts to hurt really bad like im about to throw up.
also i was late on my period , adn am gaining weight i thought i was pregnant . but then i got my period
could you be pregnant and get your period ? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
First of all, it's normal not to experience a lot of pleasure when you have sex for the first time. For many people it can be very painful. For others they just don't feel anything. Sometimes it can take years and years for women to find something that gets them off during sex. It just takes practice. As for the fingering and oral sex, it sounds like whatever they were doing just wasn't right. It is one of the most amazing feelings in the world but if they are just touching you and you're not turned on it's just going to feel like... they are touching you. Nothing special. If you have an orgasm it will feel fantastic and you will know it's an orgasm. If it didn't feel that great, my guess is it wasn't an orgasm.
I'm not sure about your stomach hurting. But sometimes heating up your body like that and working yourself up can make some people feel a little woozy. Re-hydrate, get some food, get comfortable, try again. It's normal to have a weird cycle as far as your period goes, but you cannot have your period and be pregnant. You can bleed a bit if you are pregnant but that is not the same type of bleeding as your period and you'll be able to tell the difference. It's called implantation bleeding. Most women don't really see weight gain for a few months until their pregnancy.
If you're really worried, take a pregnancy test. |
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