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January 26, 2012 |
| sugarballs asks: |
| Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for three years now and we tend to go a couple of rounds and i was wondering why after a couple of rounds it begins to hurt and become uncomfterable to the point where i have to pull away because it hurts so much i really would like to know why it hurts so bad so we can fix it |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
It hurts so bad because you're going at it for so long. It's like if you crawl around on the carpet. It's going to feel okay for a while, but eventually you're going to end up with rugburn.
If you really want to keep going, make sure you add more lube every so often. There's bound to be friction regardless, but you can help minimize some of the pain. |
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| Topic: |
General |
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January 20, 2012 |
| anonymous asks: |
| I don't want to regret sex, and I don't believe masturbation is right...but sometimes I justhave these raging hormones and feelings and I justwant to have an orgasm. |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
| So have one. Figure out why you're so against masturbation and then decide if it's worth it to you to not follow through with a basic physical need/desire. |
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December 10, 2011 |
| HorriblePerson asks: |
| I was making out with.. my girlfriend.. and I took it too far.. we're usually are very sexual so stuff is normal too far, I didn't.. the r-word... but.. I groped her boob.. normally she's fine with this so idk.. she kept asking me to stop kissing her and stuff, and I thought she was kidding round and being playfully hard to get like usual because she does that a lot... but she wasn't.. and I didn't stop... I feel so fucking horrible.. I don't know what to do... |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
| Talk to her! Let her know you thought she was kidding around because she does other times. Set up a safe word of sort then so you both know if she says that, you need to actually stop what you're doing. |
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| Topic: |
General |
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December 09, 2011 |
| FriendWorried asks: |
| My friend has been dating her boyfriend for almost 4 weeks now. Recently she told me he asked her to have sex, She says she's not sure if she wants to or not. I want to give her some adivice but I don't know what to say. Please help me, help her! |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| I would suggest reminding her that if she's not sure if she wants to or not, that she might not be ready. Help her by being there for her, helping her get birth control or health testing done (all should be considered prior to having sex, anyways) so on and so forth. Tell her that she should do it when she knows that she really wants to, and to not let someone pressure her into doing something she isn't sure about. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
November 29, 2011 |
| racheal asks: |
| Ive been dating my boyfriend for 2 months now i do love him and he loves me, i want to start to have sex but my mom says that once i give it up that he will move one to someone that doesn't gives it up that easy.(i am 17) |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
| It really is up to you. What do you think will happen? If you have expectations of spending the rest of your life together, then no, that's not realistic at this point and you may want to wait if that's what you're wanting. There's no rush regardless, though, so if you're unsure, no harm in waiting until you're sure it's what you want to do. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
November 29, 2011 |
| racheal asks: |
| Ive been dating my boyfriend for 2 months now i do love him and he loves me, i want to start to have sex but my mom says that once i give it up that he will move one to someone that doesn't gives it up that easy.(i am 17) |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| That's an unfortunate way of thinking. It's a fairly common line within a group of people who believe in abstinence. These people believe that a lot of your self-worth revolves around your sexuality and if you have sex your partner will leave because there's nothing left to stay for. You alone have to make the decision on whether or not you're ready to have sex, and whether or not your partner is a good choice. There are certainly some guys out there who would leave you once you had sex with them. These are sh-tty guys who aren't actually looking for a relationship. This is just one of the many times in life where you'll have to use your best judgment. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. If it does, make sure you're ready by having conversations about what to expect with your partner and making sure you protect yourself (condoms, bc, etc) |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
November 29, 2011 |
| Puppet1994 asks: |
| Hello there.
When i was 15 years old i lost my virginity that was my 1st time and ONLY time to this boy i liked at the time but when we did it he wasn't hard but i am now 17 years old and its been 23 months with out having sexual intercourse and i have a boyfriend at the time and i told him i was a virgin but i know he is a virgin, do you think he can tell if i am a virgin or not. i only did it once.
Thanks. |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
| No, he can't tell that you're not a virgin but *you* should probably tell him you're not. Why lie to him? |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
November 29, 2011 |
| Puppet1994 asks: |
| Hello there.
When i was 15 years old i lost my virginity that was my 1st time and ONLY time to this boy i liked at the time but when we did it he wasn't hard but i am now 17 years old and its been 23 months with out having sexual intercourse and i have a boyfriend at the time and i told him i was a virgin but i know he is a virgin, do you think he can tell if i am a virgin or not. i only did it once.
Thanks. |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| There is no way to tell whether or not someone has had sex. That being said, I would be honest with your partner about your sexual history. I would also consider getting tested for STDs since you have had sex. (It's unlikely you have anything considering the situation but it's a part of being ready to have sex- the ability to communicate with your partner honestly and the ability to get tested.) GL. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
October 21, 2011 |
| emo_princess3 asks: |
| the wrong place for this i know but i need answers. me and my ex have been broken up for one month one week and four days. i miss him terribly i screwed up. i mean we didnt have the perfect relationship we fought some like all couples do but i was faithful to him. he has a new girlfriend now and they are still in that everything is great stage i know. she is pregnate 7 months, it is not his. i really want him back and i know he is making a huge mistake i know him inside and out and know he is not ready for kids. what i dont know is how i can win back his hard and make him love me again. I truely do love him. even after the break up i am still faithful to him. please help me get him to come back to me. |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
| I can't help you get him back, and from the sounds of it, he's not interested either. Maybe he's not ready for kids....maybe this is a rebound for him....maybe he's trying to move on. I don't know, but you're not helping yourself any by obsessing right now either. Try to step back, see what went wrong, and think rationally (it'll take some time to get there). What caused the breakup? You said you screwed up....is it something forgivable? You keep talking about being faithful, but there's a lot more to things like this. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
September 06, 2011 |
| ... asks: |
| so, I am just about 19 as is my boyfriend and we have been dating for 2 months now, upon us starting to date I was a virgin but he was not, we recently just had sex and I was curious as to if its normal to just like sit there, I really dont do anything, I know it kinda bugs him but I just I dont know what to do... |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| Generally speaking, laying there is discouraged. It's called "starfishing" -- when one partner lays legs spread on the bed and lets their partner do all the work. It might take a little while to get the swing of things, and that's okay. It could be beneficial to talk to your partner about it and let him know that you're not quite sure what to do yet. I encourage kissing him, grabbing onto him, talking to him, running your fingers along him, touching yourself (your clit, your boobs, etc) or even grabbing his cock or playing with his balls while he is inside you. You can also play up the positions. Move your legs up over his shoulders or wrap them around him. Initiate position-switches or even get on top. It'll take a bit of confidence to get there, but you can doit. |
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