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March 14, 2010 |
| Jenn asks: |
| lol there is no good way to start this. I am a virgin and I am 18 years old...not a big deal right? Well it is to me because I am ready for sex; however, I am afraid of what guys will say of my large lips. I know that large labia are normal but they aren't really accepted in today's vain society. Porn doesn't exactly promote this appearance. I don't want to get intimate with a guy and have his reaction to my lips ruin my confidence and sexual appetite. I have looked into labiaplasty but I don't have $5000 to get this fixed. What would be your advice? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| Advice? Don't stress about it! Every vagina is different, each and every one. And do you know how many look like the "perfect vagina"? Well- let's just say sex wouldn't be quite as common as it was if guys only wanted to screw blow up dolls. Don't let what you've seen or heard about your labia freak you out. Any guy worth sleeping with (and hopefully that's who you choose) will not care about nor even think about for a second the shape or style of your vagina. Not only that but many men prefer vaginas that aren't of that variety and probably seek out vaginas just like yours. Final line? Go into sex full of confidence for the hot body that is yours. Enjoy yourself and if your partner can't enjoy it too then ditch him and find someone who can. |
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General |
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March 03, 2010 |
| bad? asks: |
| sex doesnt feel good to me is there something wrong with me? does it not last long enough? i have been sexually active for a year and every body says sex feels good but not for me so what is wrong? i make my boyfriend feel great but its just not there for me what am i doin wrong please help because it makes my boyfriend feel bad because im not being pleased. |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| It's pretty common for it to take more work for sex to feel good for a woman. Here are some things to keep in mind. 1) Sex takes practice. Enjoy the practice. Experiment and find something that feels good. 2) Not everything works for every body. Don't get discouraged. 3) Be mentally aroused. Are you into it? Wanna have sex? That is necessary. 4) Remember the clit. Most women can't orgasm without having their clitoris stimulated (touched, rubbed, licked, vibrated, etc) so don't leave that out! Do lots of clit work! It is where most of the nerve endings (where the feel good comes from) are. |
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February 20, 2010 |
| brittiniBEE asks: |
| how can you be an advisor? cause i have a lot of good advice i think and id really like to help people out |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| Many times people become advisors because they have developed a reputation on the site and someone who is already an advisor suggests them as a good one. You can talk to Jeff, who runs the site, and see if you can become an advisor. Unless you're shown to be reliable and know what you're talking about though (which I'm not saying you aren't, but they're going to need to know you are) then they might not be interested in anyone else. I would suggest starting by helping people on the forums and making your voice heard there, that is a great way to start. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
February 08, 2010 |
| anon asks: |
| I am on the contraceptive pill microygnon and had my 7 day break where i dont have to take any pills (the same as the placebo week) i then had sex on the last day of my break but forgot to take my pill for 3 days after that is there a chance i could be pregnant? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| There is always a chance you could get pregnant if you're having sex, even if you are on the pill. Those chances go up if you forget to take your pills. I would take a pregnancy test to make sure everything is a-okay if you're worried. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
January 23, 2010 |
| wondering asks: |
| why is it that sex feels good? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| Lots of nerve endings ;-) |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
January 21, 2010 |
| anymous101 asks: |
| I recently learned that females have three holes down there. Your butthole, vagina and where you pee. I always thought that during sex you'd use the pee hole and I just found out that there is a another hole (the vagina) to use. This has me really confused and I was wondering if it could be explained. |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| That's a pretty common misconception, as frightening as that is. Sex education is a sad state of affairs. There is the vagina, the anus, and the urethra. The urethra is what urine comes out of. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
January 14, 2010 |
| xOhhHeyyx asks: |
| In a " friends with benefits " relationship, how can you tell who gave who an STD? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| It can be difficult to see where an STD has come from. It can be beneficial to simply ask your partner if they knew they had an infection. Some people choose not to disclose this information before having sex with someone (not good) thinking that they might not pass it on. If neither of you knew you had an STD I would suggest checking past partners to see if any of yours or theirs has something. If so, that would be a good indicator of what direction it came from. In some cases I would imagine doctors would be able to give you an exam to see how far the STD has progressed and work out some sort of time frame as well. |
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General |
| Date: |
January 05, 2010 |
| Steveo91 asks: |
| Yesterday my GF was supposed to have her period and we had sex protected/unprotected, i know precum has a slight chance of getting a girl pregnant, but today (4/5) she still has not had her period. She and I are really worried about this. She has no way to get to a clinic because her parents do not approve of me. are we overworrying? cause i know periods arent always on time. i never came in her, i always pulled out 5-10 and came in a bag, then after that i would put a condom on. |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
Yes, you are. First of all, if she's expecting her period one day and you have sex any time around then, it's not going to effect that current period in terms of pregnancy.
What I mean is, even if she got pregnant because of the unprotected sex you just had, she'd likely still have this period show up because her body hasn't had time to really even "get" pregnant yet.
There are a million and one reasons why her period could be delayed, but it's highly, highly, highly unlikely that she will become pregnant. Save yourselves some worrying and just wear a condom 'before' you start doing stuff next time. There's a slight chance with precum, so just don't risk it. You're fine this time, but what if you aren't so careful next time? |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
December 30, 2009 |
| ??? asks: |
| well, i'm a 14 year old female and i've been thinking about sex a lot lately. like all the time. in school, at home, doing homework. is that really sick? i mean, it seems like it is. |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| Nope, totally normal! At that age your hormones are flying and sex is going to be on your mind, even if you don't mean for it to be. And it's not sex, strange, or weird. It's not even gross. It's totally normal, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Just remember that you shouldn't act on these urges unless you are of the right age and emotionally/physically mature enough to do so. I'd start with some masturbation, though! It could help curb those urges and thoughts down to a more controllable level. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
December 22, 2009 |
| boo121 asks: |
| im really confused about my sexuality i had a best friend and we were really close snd basically we had sex and i started to get feelings for her and over a few months we had something going and and we were going out for 7 months and she split up with me a couple of months ago im finding it hard to move on from her she was my first person i actually had feelings for. i dont no if im a lesbian or not because i dont feel anything for other girls just her. i dont if this is just a faze and i will soon grow out of it. can u give me some advice on what i should do please? |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
It sounds like she was your first true love, and it makes it even more difficult that you were best friends 'and' you're struggling with your own sexuality. That's a rough combination to deal with and there's no doubt that it's going to take you some time to get over her and figure out the other things going through your head.
I can't say that it's a "phase you'll grow out of," but with time, you will definitely learn more and be able to move on. No matter what the situation, it can be difficult to move on after a breakup, so give yourself some time. If you're feeling down in general, surround yourself with friends....go do things you enjoy, etc. |
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