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| Date: |
January 23, 2010 |
| wondering asks: |
| why is it that sex feels good? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| Lots of nerve endings ;-) |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
January 21, 2010 |
| anymous101 asks: |
| I recently learned that females have three holes down there. Your butthole, vagina and where you pee. I always thought that during sex you'd use the pee hole and I just found out that there is a another hole (the vagina) to use. This has me really confused and I was wondering if it could be explained. |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| That's a pretty common misconception, as frightening as that is. Sex education is a sad state of affairs. There is the vagina, the anus, and the urethra. The urethra is what urine comes out of. |
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| Topic: |
General |
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January 14, 2010 |
| xOhhHeyyx asks: |
| In a " friends with benefits " relationship, how can you tell who gave who an STD? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| It can be difficult to see where an STD has come from. It can be beneficial to simply ask your partner if they knew they had an infection. Some people choose not to disclose this information before having sex with someone (not good) thinking that they might not pass it on. If neither of you knew you had an STD I would suggest checking past partners to see if any of yours or theirs has something. If so, that would be a good indicator of what direction it came from. In some cases I would imagine doctors would be able to give you an exam to see how far the STD has progressed and work out some sort of time frame as well. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
January 05, 2010 |
| Steveo91 asks: |
| Yesterday my GF was supposed to have her period and we had sex protected/unprotected, i know precum has a slight chance of getting a girl pregnant, but today (4/5) she still has not had her period. She and I are really worried about this. She has no way to get to a clinic because her parents do not approve of me. are we overworrying? cause i know periods arent always on time. i never came in her, i always pulled out 5-10 and came in a bag, then after that i would put a condom on. |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
Yes, you are. First of all, if she's expecting her period one day and you have sex any time around then, it's not going to effect that current period in terms of pregnancy.
What I mean is, even if she got pregnant because of the unprotected sex you just had, she'd likely still have this period show up because her body hasn't had time to really even "get" pregnant yet.
There are a million and one reasons why her period could be delayed, but it's highly, highly, highly unlikely that she will become pregnant. Save yourselves some worrying and just wear a condom 'before' you start doing stuff next time. There's a slight chance with precum, so just don't risk it. You're fine this time, but what if you aren't so careful next time? |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
December 30, 2009 |
| ??? asks: |
| well, i'm a 14 year old female and i've been thinking about sex a lot lately. like all the time. in school, at home, doing homework. is that really sick? i mean, it seems like it is. |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| Nope, totally normal! At that age your hormones are flying and sex is going to be on your mind, even if you don't mean for it to be. And it's not sex, strange, or weird. It's not even gross. It's totally normal, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Just remember that you shouldn't act on these urges unless you are of the right age and emotionally/physically mature enough to do so. I'd start with some masturbation, though! It could help curb those urges and thoughts down to a more controllable level. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
December 22, 2009 |
| boo121 asks: |
| im really confused about my sexuality i had a best friend and we were really close snd basically we had sex and i started to get feelings for her and over a few months we had something going and and we were going out for 7 months and she split up with me a couple of months ago im finding it hard to move on from her she was my first person i actually had feelings for. i dont no if im a lesbian or not because i dont feel anything for other girls just her. i dont if this is just a faze and i will soon grow out of it. can u give me some advice on what i should do please? |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
It sounds like she was your first true love, and it makes it even more difficult that you were best friends 'and' you're struggling with your own sexuality. That's a rough combination to deal with and there's no doubt that it's going to take you some time to get over her and figure out the other things going through your head.
I can't say that it's a "phase you'll grow out of," but with time, you will definitely learn more and be able to move on. No matter what the situation, it can be difficult to move on after a breakup, so give yourself some time. If you're feeling down in general, surround yourself with friends....go do things you enjoy, etc. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
December 19, 2009 |
| anonymous asks: |
| what's sex? i mean...i know WHAT it is...but how do you....do it? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| This is a pretty vague question so I'll answer the best I can. Sex (sexual intercourse) can be a variety of things but generally most people, when referring to sex, are referring to vaginal penetration. This is when a man gets his penis hard and erect and sticks it into a girls aroused/wet vagina. Usually there is lots of thrusting in and out or grinding until the male ejaculates sperm into her/into a condom or until she has an orgasm. There are other kinds of sex like oral sex (when you stimulate the other persons genitals with your mouth) or anal sex, when a man puts his penis in a guys/girls anus. The topic of sex itself is very vast so if you'd like to ask more specific questions feel free to write back. In general, though, sex is just stimulation of the genitals for pleasure. How you do it depends on what you want to do, there are lots of ways to do it :-) |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
December 16, 2009 |
| inc asks: |
| is it bad having sex at 16 |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
| For some it might be, and for others, it's not. It's an individual matter, so if you or other people are happy with having sex, are being safe, etc, then so be it. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
December 09, 2009 |
| anonymous asks: |
| Well, I'm 14, a freshman in high school and I really like this guy in the band. I think he is going to ask me out. But, he's 18 and I don't care. My parents on the other hand, well I doubt that they'd approve. I don't know what to do. If it was a guy my age that asked me out I could just say yes, knowing my parents wouldn't mind. But since he's older, I'd have to ask my parents first, and I don't want to seem like a loser by saying, "Well, I have to ask my parents first." if he asks me out. Help?? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| Good question! I would confront the problem right now by talking to your parents and telling them that there is a cool guy you like in your band class but he's a bit older than you. Then when he asks you out you can say sure but you have to meet my parents first. Bring him over, introduce them, then go out. Good luck! |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
December 06, 2009 |
| not so horny asks: |
| hey, i'm a 16 year old girl
and i feel like i'm never horny
and whenever i masturbate i never cum/orgasm
i've never had one.
i'm prude so i've never done anything with a guy
and when i go online, i cam sometimes and guys show me their dicks..but it doesn't turn me on
is that weird? like is there something wrong with me?
help me out please (: |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
Nope, it's not weird at all and there's nothing wrong with you!
When you masturbate, focus on enjoying what it feels like and exploring your body. Learn what feels good and don't worry about whether or not you reach an orgasm. That'll come with good time. When you 'are' horny, think about things that turn you on or explore your own fantasies. Just 'enjoy' it.
As for guys showing you their dicks, if you're not turned on or interested in it, it's not going to do anything for you. Frankly, dicks can be rather ugly and they're just a hunk of flesh, so it could be no different than someone showing you their foot and you expecting it to turn you on. It's way more about pleasure and you just need to find what gets 'you' going. Do you like that guys like showing you? Do you imagine what it'd feel like to have sex maybe or to have someone touch you seductively? Might it turn you on to know that someone is lusting after you? The list goes on and on.
There are a million and one things that might turn you or that might feel good to your body. You're young and have plenty of time to figure out what those things are, so do less worrying about the end result or what might turn others on, and focus on just having fun. :) |
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