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General |
| Date: |
July 01, 2009 |
| Blush asks: |
| Well, I'm a 13 year old female. I found this guy I really like and I want to have sex with him. I'm a virgin. I DON'T have my period at all. I had a false alarm last year in September, and it only lasted for 6 days but never came back. What I'm wondering is since I am not completely "fully developed", in the sense that I haven't gained my period at all, is it possible for me to have sex? What I mean is would his penis be able to fit in my vagina? Thanks |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| It is possible, but I would not recommend doing it. The simple fact that you need to ask these questions (which is good!) means you're not ready. Wait a while longer. Learn the anatomy of both yours and his bodies. Learn about sex. Learn about protection. Learn about how it will affect you both physically and mentally. There is no harm in waiting a big longer, especially to be prepared. You will enjoy the sex much, MUCH more if you are prepared and "ready". Not to mention, I do have to bring up the sex laws which state you are still a minor and there are many reasons that law is in place. Keep that in mind :-) Beyond that I would highly recommend masturbating. I believe everyone should masturbate before they have sex. It will allow you better control over your body when you do have sex later on. Good luck. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
June 22, 2009 |
| his wifey asks: |
| what does it mean when you first have sex and then the next day you have like pains in your stomach that kinda feel like an off and on aqain stomachache?i had sex for the first time and my stomachs been feelinq like this for two days! and is my vaqina sopose to hurt the next day! |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
| Both are totally normal! You used a lot of muscles and body parts that aren't used to being messed with, so being sore or achy is normal. If it continues any longer than a few days, though, or gets worse instead of fading away, you might want to talk to your doctor. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
June 21, 2009 |
| Embarrassed asks: |
| Okay, so this is like the first time I able to come over with this and talk about it so bear with me.
When I was 14 I was forced to have sex with a senior boy at my school. He caused some damage and some pretty nasty bruises and I told my mom that I fell down the steps. I keep a very detailed journal which has a lock and I hide it in the back of my closet but I forgot to put it away and my mother was reading through it and came across this journal entry. She is hurt that I never told her and she told me that I'm dirty and that she hates me and that I'll never be good enough for anyone because I'm not a virgin. ( My mother is a very strict and devout catholic). I don't know how to explain it to her so she understands what happened and I am afraid that I will never be able to become intimate with anyone that I love. Do you know of any self help sites ( I don't want to have to actually correspond with anyone) that will help me help myself to move on? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| First of all, and this is going to suck, but if that is how your mother sees sex you will be hard pressed to change her views on that. Just know that you are NOT dirty and you are NOT any less of a person because of this. You WILL be able to be intimate again. You just need to work passed this unfortunate incident. I'm not sure what kind of help sites you are looking for or what kind of help you want. I would try searching for a forum of people who have also been coerced sexually/sexually assaulted so you can hear other stories and perhaps share your own. It's good to work out your past with people who have been through similar things. Beyond that, here is a set of links you could check out. http://www.way2hope.org/sexabuse.htm I hope you find the help you are looking for and are able to move on. Just know that you are not alone and that you are not tainted in any way because of this. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
June 20, 2009 |
| Tataru asks: |
| My girl wants to do it but keeps pushing me away. then when she wants to do it, I have no glove, should I just take it out or wait? |
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| diamondkitten378 says: |
| Just wait. If she's so wishy washy, maybe you should talk about that. Otherwise, come prepared with a condom or wait until the next time. Don't risk pulling out. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
June 19, 2009 |
| katy88 asks: |
| I'm an 18 year old girl, and I'm a virgin. I am really inexperienced when it comes to sex and dating. My question is about masturbation. I only do it once in awhile. How do I do it in a way that satisfies me? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| Most women get the most pleasure out of playing with your clit. Try out different movements (up and down, round and round) with your fingers, as well as different pressures. Adding lube or playing with a vibrator can help. Really you just need to explore and see what works best for you and your body! |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
June 19, 2009 |
| Help asks: |
| Im 14 and was wit ma bf for 7 months hes 24 i loved him so much i done EVERYTIN wiv him last nite when i got a txt it was from his gf so now hes cheatin on me. I want 2 ruin ders lives by reportin him 2 da guards but i dont wnt my parents or family 2 find out. Sud i report him ore just letdem be happy? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| You should let them be happy and move on. Clearly this guy is not worth your time, or effort, or emotions. Since you are under the legal age of consent and he is quite far above it, if you had sex with him technically that is a type of rape (which you could report)... but that is in your hands and your hands alone. Beyond that I would find someone your own age to date, or forget about boys for a while and focus on yourself. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
June 18, 2009 |
| Hottie7777 asks: |
| How can i ask a girl oUT |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| "Will you go out with me?" Have confidence, but make sure there is some established relationship there with her already. Be friends, be good acquaintances- something. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
June 07, 2009 |
| muffin asks: |
| I just broke up with my boyfriend for a guy im more sexually attracted to.
the guy is 17 and im 14.
i feel a stronger emotional and physcical connection with him.
is it wrong for me to choose him over my ex who has treated me kindly for 2 months? |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| Not at all. You can find lots of guys who will treat you nice. That's not hard. What is hard is finding that strong connection. Stick with your gut and don't feel guilty for it. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
May 31, 2009 |
| ugh sex asks: |
| so idk what to do.. i want to have sex with my bf.. i just think i want to be a lil older.. i mean u get one life! so idk i'm 18 and he's 17 but turning 18.. i just wish i was 100% decided on this subject because im 50/50 on the whole thing.. im just a messss.. |
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| behindenemydeadlines says: |
| Basically you are decided. If you're not 100% then don't do it. You're conflicted so don't do it, put it out of your mind and concentrate on other things. You don't want to regret doing it too early and you'll never regret waiting. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
May 30, 2009 |
| GirlinLove asks: |
| Hi, im considering on shaving my pubic hair and i was wondering what can i use to shave it. Razors, Trimmers, ect.. Thanks |
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| hollistercutie4 says: |
| If you've never shaved before you will want to trim it down first (with a small pair of scissors or an electric razor)... then shave it with a regular razor like you would shave your legs with. |
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